Social networks (ala facebook) waste of time?
I gotta admit, I don't really understand social networks and why are they so popular. To me it seems like a burdensome waste of time going to one of these, spending hours editing my profile and then what? Waiting for someone to contact me to become my "friend" or something? I very much doubt so. Instead I'd probably have to spend even more time on contacting other people to give the whole account any purpose.
I feel, somehow, having a blog and participating in some online communities like Libervis.com and Nuxified.org is quite enough. Add IRC to that and what else do you really need in terms of online socializing??
Fine I can see the point if someone joins these networks to get to know people who they could potentially meet in real life (being near the same location). Then it adds a little bit more to IRC/blogs/forums... but even so.. it just seems like wasting time on something non-essential... Maybe I am mistaken and maybe this is just a reflection of my bad state when it comes to really socializing with people, not just online around things of interest where friendships happen "accidentally" on the way, but really setting on to actually look for new friends.
Maybe, my almost total passivity in this regard is why I don't get social networks?
Although, I do participate (although not too actively) on a site that some people define as a social bookmarking site, digg.com, but even there I am not to really meet friends (even though I keep getting emails notifying I have new "fans" ), but to.. well.. digg news!
Slightly related to this is the fact that a very large portion of what to many people seem like "normal" behaviour, to me is just cheesy and undesirable. Cheesy, it's lately one word which I most frequently use to disassociate myself from various things in the society around me.. The stupid teenage giggling when talking about some silly games or pranks or jokes or gossip - I can barely stand it! It so often feels like damn kids who will always be kids living in some sort of an ignorant bubble in which things of most importance seem to be "who banged whom" or "how sweeeeeeeeeeeeet that puppy is".. giggling and laughing about everything or crying like spoiled children about totally inconsequential things.
And no I'm not talking just about teens. Even mature people generally seem to be pre-occupied with stuff that just doesn't seem to matter as much to justify the amount of time and energy spent on blabbering on about them. Some could call it "being social" and "making a conversation", but to me it is more like "acting to be someone who I am not". For example, how many times do I find myself faking being impressed with something someone said just because that someone is a friend who I could supposedly hurt or just make think I am being rude if I don't get impressed by something... that is oh so clearly impressive.
This happens online too, even in communities like this, but how much more could it happen in these general social networks, populated by people who oh finally discovered the web as a way to hive up with their cheesy friends - carrying their unimportant wasteful conversations from their bedrooms, coffee shops, clubs, streets and phones to the net. Now I'm supposed to jump in there and find "friends".. by again acting that I'm someone who I am not.